Family Update

August has been an unusually cold month. The children have been home for the holidays. We kept them busy with a travel to Mumias and activities at home. The final term for the year has started. We want to finish the last segment of the year well.

Palmhouse Foundation- Githunguri: Saturday 2nd August 2025

Palmhouse Foundation invited me to speak to the students under their scholarships. I met 300 students at Githunguri for an early breakfast meeting. I spoke on healthy relationships and guarding oneself from sexual grooming. We had a wonderful time of healing with the students. Each student got a copy of our book, Holy Joe.

Indian Couples Marriage Fellowship: Sunday 3rd August 2025

Turi and I were invited by Pastor Nigel Demello. Nigel and his wife Anisha have started a couples fellowship for Indian Couples in Nairobi. The fellowship attracted native Indians and some local Kenyan Indians. Some of them are Christian, some are Hindu and some are Kalasinga. This was our second session. The couples are really excited. We have developed an intimate bond with them.

Deliverance for M: Tuesday 5th August 2025

A lady by the name M came for inner healing and restoration. M had suffered a tough time relating with men in her life. She had a low sense of her value and was battling with sexual sin. She was carrying the guilt of an abortion and the rejection from friends and family. M also had suffered rape and was carrying a lot of pain and bitterness. We processed the forgiveness list with her. She cried during the session but committed to the healing process. We are due for another session.

Deliverance for M: Tuesday 5th August 2025

A lady by the name M came for inner healing and restoration. M was battling depression and suicidal thoughts. She had also been raped twice. One of the times she was raped was by a pastor. She had developed a hatred for men. M had also been severely mistreated by her family and had contemplated suicide several times. We covered the forgiveness list but we still have more groundwork to do. We are due for several sessions.

Deliverance for C: Wednesday 6th August 2025

A lady named C came for inner healing and restoration. C was having a difficult relationship with her parents, especially her father. He had been emotionally violent towards her and her siblings. Their strained relationship led to C running away from home. She was carrying lots of bitterness and resentment. She struggled to forgive but eventually gave in. We are due for another session.

PCEA Ciiko Hunters Kasarani: Wednesday 6th August 2025

Presbyterian Church of East Africa Ciiko Parish in Kasarani invited me to speak to the youth on healthy dating relationships. We had a great time, and the feedback was great.

Lightfest at Resurrection Temple: 13th to 15th August 2025

I was invited Resurrection Temple for their premier youth conference dubbed Lightfest. I spoke in two sessions. The first session was on leadership in the church. I shared from John 13. The second session was on healing and forgiveness. The second session was cathartic. We had a great alatar call of youth releasing the pain and bitterness they had held towards their parents. The conference was a great success!

Deliverance for V: Wednesday 13th August 2025

A lady by the name V came for inner healing and restoration. This was V’s third session. We were still on the forgiveness list. On this particular day we forgave the man who raped V. It was a huge mountain to move but it did. She cried as she released the pain. This was a very key moment for her healing. She left feeling lighter and peaceful.

Mavuno Church Fearless Camp: Friday 15th August 2025

Mavuno Church invited me to speak at their youth camp dubbed Fearless Camp. I was asked to speak on sexual purity. I had a great time ministering to the youth. The feedback was great.

PCEA Kahawa Sukari: Friday 15th August 2025

Presbyterian Church of East Africa Kahawa Sukari invited me to speak to their unmarried youth. They are conducting a dating class. I was assigned two topics. On this day my topic was sexual purity. We looked at the life of Joseph in Genesis 39. The feedback was very positive.

Gender Parity: Saturday 16th August 2025

Mamlaka Hill Chapel Ruaka had a joint session with their men’s and women’s ministries, Armoured and Anchored respectively. The topic was gender parity. Turi and I were part of the panel. You can watch the whole session here: https://youtu.be/6LDWHQ_1_zM?si=P4-ZjZZmTj7uDATl

City of Transformation: Saturday 16th August 2025

City of Transformation church invited me to speak to their teenagers. We had the session at Oloolua Nature Trail in Karen. The outdoor session was refreshing. I spoke on healing from parental baggage. The session was cathartic for the teens. Some of them cried. We had a great time of healing prayer at the end.

Ndoa Bora Kids: Saturday 16th August 2025

Turi and I have been part of a marriage group for the past 12 years. The group is called Ndoa Bora. On this day, I was tasked to minister to the preteens and teens of the group. I spoke to them on biblical sexuality. We met at Ngong Hills Hotel. We had a great time. They asked many questions. I answered them all. They also gave feedback to give their parents.

Mamlaka Hill Chapel- City Campus: Sunday 17th August 2025

Mamlaka Hill Chapel City campus invited me to speak to their teenagers on biblical sexuality. We had a great time with the kids. I taught them using several bible verses. The feedback was great from the teenagers. They each got a complimentary copy of Holy Joe.

Redeemed Gospel Church Ruiru- Youth Camp: 18th to 23rd August 2025

Redeemed Gospel Church Ruiru held their annual camp at Mount Longonot Schools in Naivasha. It was a great camp. We had about 35 youth. We addressed the following topics: Sexual purity, Destiny, Relationships and Spiritual disciplines. On Thursday we hiked Mount Longonot with the teenagers. We had a an anointing and Holy Communion service at the end of the camp. Each camper got a complimentary copy of the book, Holy Joe.

Mamlaka Hill Chapel- City Campus: Sunday 24th August 2025

Mamlaka Hill Chapel City invited me to speak to the parents of the teenagers that I had met a week earlier. The topic was “How to talk to your children about sex.” We had a great interactive time with parents as I equipped them with wisdom on parenting.

ACK St. Elizabeth Kahawa West- City Campus: Sunday 24th August 2025

The Anglican Church of Kenya St. Elizabeth Kahawa West parish invited me to speak to their men on the subject on sexual purity. We had a great time exegeting the life of Joseph in Genesis 39. The men were appreciative of the conversations. We had a Q and A session at the end. The outcomes and the feedback were great.

Deliverance for S: Tuesday 26th August 2025

A lady by the name S came for inner healing and restoration. This was our third and final session. S was carrying a lot of bitterness from family members who had hurt her. She was also carrying the trauma of a boyfriend who had raped her. The session was heavy, but we trudged on. She forgave every offender. After the session, she felt lighter and relieved.

Deliverance for V: Wednesday 27th August 2025

A lady by the name V came for inner healing and restoration. This was our fourth session. We completed the forgiveness list. This session was the most emotional we have ever had. V cried a river as she forgave every offender. The session was therapeutic and she felt significantly lighter when we were done.

Thriving in Marriage: Wednesday 27th August 2025

Margaret Ayedemi Lubembe from Nigeria invited me to minister to members of the Body of Christ in her country. The session was titled “Built to Last: How to Thrive, not Just Stay Married.” Here is the recording: https://1drv.ms/v/c/7b196add7fcefad1/EWLXH9UOV3tJg0mMHoeFYIcBW7Pg7pXwV3JBp2BmZ5ZNJA?e=SAaNNb

Deliverance for R: Thursday 28th August 2025

A lady by the name R came for inner healing and restoration. H was having a tough time with her father. Her parents were divorced because the father was a violent man- physically and emotionally. R was still carrying the baggage of the father wound. We reviewed her childhood. She opened up and revealed a lot of pent-up pain. We processed the pain patiently, and R cried a lot. When we were done, she felt relieved and lighter.

CITAM Family Discipleship Conference: Friday 29th August 2025

Christ Is The Answer Ministries invided me for their Family Discipleship Conference. I was tasked to speak on the topic “Battle of the Sexes: Debunking Gender Roles and Power Dynamics.” Here is the recording: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R-tqmrO-Jyc

PCEA Kahawa Sukari: Friday 29th August 2025

Presbyterian Church of East Africa Kahawa Sukari invited me to speak to their unmarried youth. They are conducting a dating class. I was assigned two topics. On this day my topic was dealing with baggage. We looked at the life of Esau and Joseph from the book of Genesis. We had a time of healing prayer and many youth came to the front for prayer.

PCEA Kiukenda: Sunday 31st August 2025

Presbyterian Church of East Africa Kiukenda invited me to be part of their Family Sunday. I was a guest speaker along six others. We had a joint service. After the service, the congregation split into seven categories; Sunday school, teenagers, youth, married couples 0-15 years, married couples 16+ years, single parents, and widows and widowers. I handled the youth. My topic was dating and courtship. The session was well attended and we had a great time.

TESTIMONY

Hi Ernest, thank you for the letter of apology to every woman in your book, Lust and the City. I have cried reading it, not because I am still broken, but it is the letter of apology I never knew I really needed. I also admired your apology to your ex for the kiss before you got married to Waturi. Not every man could do what you really did, especially for just a kiss that may seem innocent and inconsequential, so thank you for that. I know in that moment she might not have fully grasped the impact of that apology, but years later, she might have truly understood the impact. I gave up on romantic kind of love, but not on love because loving includes myself and the greatest form of love that is of Christ, but reading that letter today may have healed a part of me I never knew of. May God bless you even up to your fourth generation.

Good evening, Ernest. This is Peter from the recent powerhouse class. I trust that you are well and your family too. Greetings. I want to truly appreciate you for investing your time and resources in us for the eight weeks. The impact goes for long, and I’m glad that I can share most of what I learned with my friends. They can’t wait to join the next session. I was greatly impacted during the sessions and with the small groups that were formed. So good to have a community of authentic men in this life. You are truly a blessing and my prayer is that God will always fill your barns with plenty. As you watered us, may you always be replenished and never lack any good thing. May you be blessed forever.

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